For lots of couples, getting pregnant is simple and straightforward, however those are the lucky couples. For plenty of couples, getting pregnant isn’t an easy or straightforward process - in fact, it can be downright difficult. When this is the case and getting pregnant isn’t happening as easily as you might have hoped, it can begin to feel like the struggle to conceive is taking over your entire life. This is especially true when the process of getting pregnant takes longer than you expected or doesn’t look how you imagined it would. 

The truth is that when you struggle with your fertility, it can come with a range of emotional impacts for you and your partner. Your concerns about getting pregnant and the state of yours’ and your partner’s fertility can cause stress, panic and even obsessing. It’s also not uncommon for couples who are unsuccessfully trying to conceive to struggle with their mental health due to feelings of depression. 

What it’s important to remember when it comes to your fertility is the fact that you cannot always change your circumstances. However, what you can control is the way in which you face the situation that you’re in, and that is what matters. 

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To help you to do that, below are some tips and pieces of advice for making coping when struggling to conceive a little easier. 

Try not to obsess 

It’s oh so easy to obsess about every aspect of getting pregnant, from the two-week wait to do a pregnancy test to the wait to see whether you notice any symptoms of pregnancy starting to develop. However, obsessing isn’t healthy and it’s important to learn not to obsess. Obsessing about getting pregnant will just make coping that much harder. 

Focus on what you love 

Instead of obsessing, try and find a way to get back to doing the things that you love. Of course, this is far easier said than done, but if you want to make coping with struggling to conceive that little bit easier, you need to think about the ways in which you can stop obsessing and start living. That’s why it’s so important that you make time to focus on the things that you love doing - the hobbies that you enjoy and spending time with the people that you love. It might be hard at first but you will feel far better for it. 

Consider your options 

If you’ve been trying to get pregnant for over nine months and nothing has happened, then it’s time to start thinking about your options. Your first port of call is to book an appointment with your doctor to discuss your options - the chances are that your doctor will refer you to a fertility clinic for further testing and to look at what your options are if you’re unable to conceive naturally. 

Be open and honest with your partner 

When it comes to coping with your fertility, don’t shut your partner out. Aim to be as open and honest with them as possible. The chances are that they’re feeling exactly the same as you are, which is why it’s important to be open with your feelings and talk about your fertility. You will both feel better for it. 

The truth is that there’s no easy fix when you’re struggling to conceive. However, the steps above can help to make managing your situation and feeling more positive about it, a little easier.

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